I understand that teens need consequences for making mistakes and those require punishments in order to learn how their actions created a problem; but raising the punishment is just a way of making your child feel as if it is helpless to try and explain themselves.
It’s kind of harsh to say but when you just keep esculating the punishment, it makes it to where YOU’RE the problem because no matter how bad the incident was, you’ve got a problem with your own trauma if you just keep on and on.
If you want to create a good relationship with you and your teen, you need to cut them a little slack depending on their mistake, but in your eyes, to where they still get a consequence. Also, us teens do things that we may not regret but the reasoning is mostly because of us needing or wanting to prove a point. That may make us seem stubborn, but that’s just the way the works is nowadays.
Before you give consequences and punishments to your teen, have a talk with them first to see why they did what they did and also try to see from their point of view. Then after, you can decide what to do or how to feel about it. Us teens feel helpless if we are not heard and thats the reason sometimes of why we act out.
HAVE AN ACTUAL CONVERSATION.. they’re not talking back; if each person is consulted that it is a serious and communicative conversatio, then we’ll be honest. Thank you.
- T33N #2
INTIMATION:
In no way is my opinion directed at attacking parents and/or other teens; I’m just explaining my point of view
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